Here in America the dysfunctional ego is fairly evenly distributed. Measured against what are often capricious standards, each of us finds much to celebrate, admire and praise about ourselves. We give ourselves an enormous amount of credit for an edgy image, lofty ideals and fierce attitude, and in the scoreboard-shaped language of everyday, “satisfying your ego” is an invitation to grandstand. We who can interject a false modesty into our conceit do it best. You know the egotistic drill.
We hide our exploitive aggressiveness and antagonism and at the same time expansively mimic humility, gratitude, generosity while we “objectively” tick off our achievements. Yet no matter how high in the pecking order we rise, the dysfunctional ego is, in fact, at the effect of the scoreboard’s ruthless rules and its exploitive standards of evaluation.